Self LOVE is the Answer ~ A guest blog by a LOVEly friend.

An introduction to someone absolutely amazing who is doing amazing things!

She is so amazing that I am actually blogging about it:) For those of you who know me, blogging is not my strong suite. But I have been inspired. This not only deserves attention, it deserves action.

I speak about self love and that it just may be answer to everything. Sounds simple. In reality it may be the most difficult thing and appear impossible to many. I believe that when we truly love ourselves we can finally be free. You become more fearless. You care less what others think- In a healthy, confident way. You are enough. You have enough.  When you believe this- I mean really believe it- you are free. Free to be YOU. Free to show up in this world and offer the YOU this world needs and deserves.

The rest of this blog is by my friend and fellow health and wellness activist, Clara Wisner of revolutionary lifestyle. She understands the excruciating pain of using food to deal with emotional turmoil & she’s acutely felt the inflicted shame of ‘carrying extra weight’.  She’s experienced the crushing lows of body image obsession, food choice hell & cravings that are seemingly unreasonable but at the same time insatiable. Clara has also worked with hundreds of women in her private coaching practice experiencing unique variations on the same theme of body obsession, confusing acts of self-sabotage & total disconnection from their hunger & satiation signals.

Thank you Clara for sharing these 5 ways to Love Yourself…

I believe that self-love is THE MOST IMPORTANT THING. Like in the world. Like always and forever.

Ok, strong statements, I know, but hear me out…

Out of every single person in the world I am the only one who knows what it feels like to be me. I am the only person who hears how I hear, who sees how I see, who loves the way I love, who experiences sadness in my way, who understands joy the way I’m meant to. I am, was and will be, with myself. It’s the one thing I can guarantee. If I don’t love me, I’m in a very difficult situation. And all this goes for you.

When we put our happiness, worthiness, valuation in someone or something else, we are saying something else matters more than our own sovereignty. When we say to ourselves consciously or unconsciously, “For me to be happy, I need him to love me,” or “I’ll really be myself when I lose these last 10 pounds,” we are literally saying someone or something else has control over how much we are worth, how much we deserve, and how much we have.

It doesn’t matter how much love you get from other people. It doesn’t matter what your body looks like or how many pretty, awesome, expensive things you have. If you don’t love yourself, it’s all just a guise, a false front. The core of happiness isn’t there.

I have the incredible privilege to talk about, practice, and explore self-love every day. It is my soul obsession. It’s my purpose. Not because I think I am doing the world a service (although, I certainly hope I am!) but because it’s what I want to do, and I love and trust myself fully so I follow the urge. Simple as that.

I’m currently traveling around the world, exploring self-love practices and spiritual theories and slowly compiling it all into a book about self-love. I work with clients all over the world as a self-love guide, walking beside women, whispering to their hearts as I can, so that they can wake up to their own inner well-spring of love.

Here’s the Truth that I know: If we don’t need external validation, we’re much more inclined to follow our hearts. And if we all followed that precious, holy space called our heart more often we would be kinder, more loving, and less afraid.

Here are 5 ways to love yourself, today, right now, this week, whenever you’re ready to start. These are by no means the only ways. You get to decide the ways that work for you because you are a powerful and sovereign being with all the answers inside of you, but in case you need some help, a little information, may these 5 points be a guide.

1. Spend time with yourself.

Spend time with yourself honestly, without distractions. This isn’t “treat yo’self” stuff like pedicures and massages (although those are definitely good forms of self-care and can be part of self-love). This could be meditation. This could just be sitting on your couch facing bravely whatever comes up when it’s quiet and you’re alone, and actually feeling it. You can’t fall in love with someone if you don’t spend time alone with them. Spend time alone with yourself.

2. Get really clear on what you want. 

Down to every last detail. You are worthy of whatever your heart desires. Spend the time to figure out what that is. You can do this as a grand whole, or you can do this for each little situation. What do you want when it comes to your love life? What do you want for dinner tonight? Get clear on all of it. You can’t get somewhere if you don’t know where you’re going, the more details, the better.

3. Stay in your body. 

Embodiment is powerful. Our bodies are precious, sacred, and holy. For us to be present we must be able to stand powerfully and confidently in our own bodies. I have so much more to say about this (it’s an entire section in my book, maybe more), but this is the basis: stay in your body. Feel it. Be it. Revere it for the awesome treasure it is.

4. Use your voice. 

This can mean different things for different people. It could be singing or chanting. It could be standing up for yourself in a situation where you’ve been walked all over or disregarded. It could be giving someone a compliment or telling them you love them. Use your voice. It’s powerful and needed.

5. Trust your instincts. 

Stop second guessing yourself. Don’t ask why you want what you want. You can trust yourself. It’s OK if you mess up. It’s OK if you don’t get it right. You’ll still have you. At some point you have to take the leap of faith and Trust that heart of yours. Break up with the guy. Quit the job. Go travel to that place. Take the course. Share your heart. Change up your diet. Stop talking to that lady who always makes you feel inadequate. Give in to the pull. Let things fall away. Start small if you need to, but practice makes perfect and to practice trusting your True self, you’ve got to start.

I’ve created an online program, revolutionize your life: 21-weeks to self love, that was birthed out of this beautiful obsession with self-love, my personal journey, and my walking alongside clients. This program puts all of this experience with self-love into a comprehensive and intentional process that allows you to enter the sanctuary of your own heart. A place you have within you, always. A place that never judges, never punishes, and is never not there.

If you are feeling the resonance with this self-love activation and you know that you want to start making self-love a priority, I invite you to check out the program information and see where it takes you.

I’m offering the readers of the piece a special code: SAVE500, which will save you $500 when entered in the coupon code space during the check out process (valid for one week). Check out the intro video and informational page if this calls to you at all: http://www.clarawisner.com/yes/

Only Love,

Clara

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